I don’t want to be left alone

It was a warm summer day and my friend was feeding me lunch on the back deck of my parents’ house. We were in the midst of an in-depth conversation about the trials faced in this life. Mine is a blatantly obvious physical battle. My friend was sexually abused. After a period of silence, we were not quite sure how to articulate the conclusion we had come to: We would not change one thing that happened to us.

Interacting with others on the road of trial has had me reflecting on how these various trials shape us. What would my life have looked like without a car accident on November 20, 2009? At the rate I was going, very comfortable. Very carefree. The path of least resistance was all I knew.

What if nothing had changed in my life trajectory?

What if nothing had changed in my life trajectory?

When I reflect on what has happened through a crash course on life over the past four years from the lessons learned, to the relationships formed and strengthened, to the perspective gained, I wouldn’t trade a thing. I would have missed out on so much of the richness and fullness of this life.

In order to experience this more, I want to take the words of the Bible to heart when it comes to facing obstacles head-on: “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (James 1:2-4) I want to take full advantage of the opportunity on the anvil of life as God the blacksmith fine-tunes me.


I’ve learned a lot through Job’s story of suffering, recorded in the Bible. God allows Job to suffer immensely, with his family being taken along with his wealth and his health. Job calls out to God, asking why God would let this happen. The gist of God’s response is, “Job, I know what I am doing.” In the end, Job gains a greater understanding of the overall picture and is able to find contentment and even joy outside the context of comfort, health, or stability. My aim is to do the same.

Bob Sorge spoke and sang for a living when an injury to his vocal chords left him without his voice. He did not know where to turn or what to think when his whole world as he knew it crumbled. In barely more than a whisper, Bob’s words in this video push home the point that I’m glad I did not stay on the carefree path I was on:

Watching this video forced me to consider the chilling reality that God could have left me alone in my comfortable bubble, in the smallness of what I knew in my own little world. I want my prayer be similar to this guy’s. “Lord, do not leave me alone. I have got to know you. I have got to see you. I have got to have you. And I want everything you’ve got for me. Lord, do not leave me to myself. Interrupt my life if you have to. Test me if you have to. Come to me. Visit me. Reveal yourself to me…”

I’m not sitting here acting as if I genuinely have “pure joy” all the time. This is not my attitude every day. Some days it is even tempting to envision where I would be today if the accident had not happened. Ultimately, though, I want to be in the same posture as Bob. Shake me up, God. I don’t want to be left alone.

  1. Jean Rice said:

    Thanks for sharing — truly a gift.


  2. Randy Sprague said:

    Been there. I find myself wanting to pray that for my children and the youth I work with, though I can’t. But the trials hurt so good.


  3. John Doe said:

    you are a fake!


    • John, I’m sorry you feel that way. If there is something specific you’d like to discuss, feel free to contact me.


    • Dwight said:

      John Doe lashes out from his own pain. Therefore there is something inside him that is still alive!
      God is chasing after him and once he turns around and looks, God will be there waiting for him…


    • Dave L. said:

      When I was in high school, I knew a Christian girl whom I thought was a fake, because I knew that her constant “everything is great” optimism could not possibly be realistic…I knew that life simply wasn’t like that. I disliked her because she was phony. I later married her, because I found out it wasn’t phony….it was Christ.


  4. Jane Glenchur said:

    Ryan, you have an amazing gift of expressing God’s heart through your own experiences. I am always challenged by your blogs. Keep up the outstanding writing!


  5. John Morelock said:

    Hey John Doe, your not only an idiot, but a coward. At least be man enough to leave your name.


  6. Jen Luckett said:

    Thanks Ryan-good stuff you’re sharing…I appreciate your blog.


  7. Patrick Carr said:

    Keep up the positive words my man. Stevi and I are moving back to Cincinnati this week so I hope we can reconnect soon. Take care!


  8. lisamarieluccioni said:



    Love, Light, & Joy in 2014.

    lml ________________________________________


  9. Jean Cassell said:

    Hi Ryan:

    You have a wonderful, spiritual, God-given faith attitude, and you are an inspiration to all. I know that you know that God is not only within you, but around you. It is impossible to be separated from the Divine Infinite Supreme. You are never, ever alone.

    Merry Christmas,

    Jean Cassell


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